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peeling of the layers

We shy away and hide our vulnerabilities,disguised with strong and fierce personas…
We impose authority over the weaklings who’ve forgetten the lion in their hearts and the largesse of the soul…
When our imperfections are revealed our souls start shrinking,
This is the ultimate reality which cannot be forgotten..
– nitya 💋

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Coping up with loss

avinashTuesday, September 15, 2015

We have all experienced loss in different spheres of our lives. Where some lost their loved ones, favorite things, and in this process of losing, some ended up losing themselves! Today I want to draw your attention to losing a loved one and its dire consequences. A devastating tragedy indeed of an unfortunate couple losing their only beloved son. From the beginning we have all been taught and told that death is a phenomenon that cannot be prevented or stopped, but today after the incident that took place in Delhi due to sheer carelessness and insensitivity of the medical authorities, I believe that sometimes death can be prevented if a person gets sufficient medical care on time. I personally believe that this is not fate , this is irresponsibility because one hasn’t tried his/her level best to save the life of a young boy barely 7yrs of age, who lost his life suffering from Dengue a disease which is curable if diagnosed and medicated on time. Avinash Rout was his name an extremely talented and capable boy who was loved, liked and admired by his parents, teachers and friends. But the bad news hasn’t ended here.. After the unexpected death of Avinash his parents couldn’t take the trauma and committed suicide by jumping from the terrace of the building they lived in. So here we have lost three lives because of the lack of concern and alertness of people and why I am saying that is because Avinash wasn’t taken to one but five hospitals and still ended up losing his life, because he was refused admission. It was an extremely emotional moment when the Principal of  the Sahodya School in South Delhi asked the students of his class ‘’who is Avinash Routs friend?’’ and the entire class of 39 students raised their hands without any hesitation, which rarely happens in today’s schools. A boy who was and will be remembered for times to come for his intelligence, innocence and for being the one who never complained for anything at all, say his teachers.  Contentment with what one has is not a quality seen in most of the individuals today and I personally salute this boy of 7 for not being like others and that is what makes him special and a class apart. While speaking about Avinash, his class teacher, Sister Prabha, took out his notebook: revision tests with full marks; a drawing of a traffic signal with red, yellow and green lights; a labelled sketch of the human face, again full marks. A boy with a bright future, brought up with lots of love and a strong emphasis on moral values left us with memories of pride and at the same time with a lot of sorrow. Today was declared a holiday due to his sad demise in his school. I really hope and pray that Avinash and his parents are in a happier place and may their souls rest in peace. As far as medical authorities are concerned strict action should be taken against the hospitals who rejected Avinash due to the lack of beds. One can understand some of the pressures,  but each and every hospital had the capacity of making alternative arrangements. The Hospital authorities should seriously introspect. There is no way now that this tragic event can be reversed or changed but the only way one can do justice to Avinash and his family is by making sure that such a big crime shall not be repeated again.

By writing this article today I pay a tribute to him and this is the least I can do.

Remember we live life only once, and it is critically important to live it well for yourself and for others…

So stay empathetic and pay it forward…

Signing out

The Girl in Vogue…

***If you have any doubts, questions, problems or insights you can feel free to share them with thegirlinvogue15999@gmail.com

ILLUSION

illusion
When the world passes by in front of me scattered,unstable and so lost that it makes one forget one’s identity
I try to get it back and keep it in the most secure place possible..
Else this unfaithful ,dispassionate supreme would snatch it away and tempt me to fall in the game of illusions, give me fake promises disguising its intentions and cravings..
As today this world feeds on wealth at any cost…but what kind of wealth ?
Is it the true abundance which any seeker is entitled to, or is it the materialistic mind which is opening its doorways and welcoming us?
Let bygones be bygones they said, but how can one  forget the harm that was caused yesterday and the resulting conflict today.
The conflict is in our mind
Mind is the battlefield where I am an amateur player and the decision is mine to choose what is meant for collective wellbeing.
Oh, I wish I was understood  by others.
My  behaviour contrasts many,  suprising but equally scary.
But now I realised that the road less travelled by me made all the difference and this leads me to an extraordinary junction!
-By The Girl In Vogue

Painful Distances..

Saturday, 27June 2015,10:33p.mDistances HI EVERYBODY! It’s been so long since I’ve posted anything on Word Press. I have been really busy with things at home and yes, a lot of holiday homework piling up for me and I have no sense of guilt at all !  I think being spontaneous and sometimes just letting things fall into place rather then trying to fit them in is good. All of us, as individuals, need to work on our present situations and circumstances which are a reflection of our past deeds. And I know it feels impossible to change an unhealthy pattern which we have been comfortably following for several years. I’m internally giggling right now because what I’m sharing with you is exactly the solution to all my current issues and that’s why I write.. As sometimes unknowingly while typing I end up answering my own questions and doubts. With our fast-paced lifestyles and tiring schedules we become so lost and restless that our intimate relationships become stagnant and start to lose their zest. It’s a slow process but when it reaches mid-way we become flustered and start drawing boundaries between one another, and when that happens it leads to lack of communication, arguments and misunderstandings. Things can then become very unpleasant and miserable, people forget to love and express and most of all the introverts further shut themselves to the sensitive and expressive ones. When that happens it almost feels like you’re having a stranger living under the same roof with you. Space and personal time is extremely important for every relationship as it gives the individual time to reflect and grow. Being close to a person does not mean being physically present all the time , but means having such a close connection and strong bond that no matter what the issue is and however distant you are from each other you are still fully involved and there through the person’s thick and thin. Sometimes just surprise your loved one or tell him/her how much you love them. Even a warm hug is equally effective and cheering. Always remember at the end of the day, in whatever situation we are it’s these close relationships which become our pillars of support, affection and understanding.

SO, KEEP LOVING

… Signing out

The Girl in Vogue…

***If you have any doubts, questions, problems or insights you can feel free to share them with thegirlinvogue15999@gmail.com

The average existence

May 28 2015,11:12

Hey guys! How are you? I’ve had a pretty relaxed and laidback day today. Since I have my vacations currently I have loads of time to think about my life’s present and future goals, which I sometimes fail to fulfill because of my laziness and habit of procrastination.

It is such an uncomfortable and disheartening feeling to be a part of the rat race where we are constantly competing against each other’s strengths and weaknesses. Honestly it makes me wanna throw-up. Why are we praised and appreciated for being a part of the crowd, what we call being “NORMAL”… Why aren’t variety, diversity, and creativity in different areas not given equal importance in a report card of a school student?

Each and every individual in this world has talents in one or more areas. Every talent should count.. It’s just that most people’s openness to something new is limited because it doesn’t fit into the “general or familiar” category.

We do not come out of our comfort zones and truly accept uniqueness, even though some may preach and give lectures about it. If any of you today feel useless or good for nothing, it’s not your fault. Yeah, it surely doesn’t mean you should sit and stare at the walls and feel sorry for yourself. It’s just that if your strengths and talents aren’t given any recognition and importance because people feel that you aren’t going anywhere in life, know that it is their limited perception and thinking.

 

In schools, students tend to be classified in the average or satisfactory category, which is almost equivalent to having a strictly constructed caste system. Let me tell you, those people who come under the topper or achiever category get more opportunities, recognition, attention, popularity and appreciation compared to the mediocre and low performers’ category.

The High school results recently came out in India and a number of students have scored above 90% marks. They & their parents flaunt these marks as a supreme achievement.. But what about the average students with a 65% or 70%. They feel embarrassed and ashamed of sharing their marks, have regrets and worry about the future that’s ahead of them. The college cut-off’s are absolutely disgusting, it makes my blood boil. Even getting a 95% isn’t enough to prove your academic capabilities in order to get admission in some of the colleges.

 

Anyway, as of now comprehensive changes in the education system seems a distant dream..

The least we can do is encourage and support children with different talents, interests & skills.

Give them a fair and equal chance.

Let them shine because it’s the so called average, creative and aspirational people who walk a fine line, having balance between education and knowledge and eventually do well in life.

 

Till then just keep living and loving.

Do more than just existing.

Signing out

The Girl in Vogue…

***If you have any doubts, questions, problems or insights you can feel free to share them with thegirlinvogue15999@gmail.com

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Taking the road less travelled…

21st May 2015 , 10:55

Today I have just been procrastinating even the simplest chores that I had to do . I’ve been quite lazy and lethargic the entire day today or should I say almost everyday! Hahahah ! yeah that’s me. So , do you feel that you are different in extreme measures from the rest of the HAPPENING crowd? Do you feel neglected or excluded from your peer groups? Do you feel lonely and isolated or that there isn’t anyone in this entire universe who can understand what you are going through? Do you feel that you have lost trust in people because you’ve been betrayed and taken for granted far too many times ? If most of the answers to the questions I asked you is a “YES”, then like me you are a person who’s taking the road less travelled because you have been made for far important and magnificent things which can only be done by people who are very emotionally sensitive and aware. The word “SENSITIVE” should not be misinterpreted because it doesn’t mean that the more you express your emotions or react the more sensitive you are. It means that you are empathetic towards people who haven’t received as much as you have or you give more emphasis on collective well-being and welfare rather than your own emotions and feelings. Let me tell you this world is filled with indifferent, cold, insensitive, crude, bitter and self-absorbed people and it’s very easy to be that way. We might get temporary respect, popularity, fame, repute etc but you will never earn true and long lasting relationships which is the only thing that keeps us going in times of need . It’s not about the number but the quality of relationships that matter, how authentic they are is the most important. Its my sincere request to you if you are an emotionally sensitive and open person please stay the way you are because this world lacks of such people and it’s you who in the long term will have a life of beautiful bonds and ties which will stay with you forever come, what, may ! If you’re surrounded with people who are aren’t emotionally aligned with you that means are bitter, and self-centered people celebrate yourself because you are not like the rest, and just treat them like patients who are unaware of their actions and are people who have been hurt and haven’t received enough love. Because its only the people who have been hurt can further hurt other beings.

So take the road less travelled as it’ll make all the difference!

Never doubt or undermine yourself because are beautiful and special ….

Love yourself and if anybody finds flaws in the way you are or the way you look their eyes are the flawed ones…

Signing out

The Girl in Vogue…

***If you have any doubts, questions, problems or insights you can feel free to share them with thegirlinvogue15999@gmail.com

LIFE IS ALL ABOUT THE CHOICES WE MAKE …

In Jim Corbett National Park.
In Jim Corbett National Park.

May18th, 2015 10:33 p.m.

 

 

Ola! How are all of you today? It’s been a pretty intense and chaotic day for me. It feels good to have ample time to reflect about my thoughts and what I’m doing about them because I have my vacations right now and it’s such a weird feeling sometimes to just sit and do nothing. I think it is because of the fast paced life we live, where we are always thinking about the next deadline we have to catch up with. We are so caught up with the future tasks and its consequences that we tend to forget to live our present fully and completely.

Certain people in this world cannot even relate to the word “relaxation”. We have always been told as children about what’s right and wrong or what is desirable and not. We are forever busy trying to please others, forever focusing on the external and in fact dependant on the external for love, affiliation, comfort, attention, recognition and what not. It’s a personal experience that’s made me realize that nobody outside of me can be the reason for my happiness or sorrow… We can tend, as teens to choose a more convenient option to blame others for our feelings. Oh God.. these FEELINGS! They trap you if you get engrossed in them and make you withdraw from the real world. It is very important to know where to draw the line, where emotions are concerned or else they will overpower your goals. O boy! I just sounded like my mother.. Just See how much change one person can bring in to our lives, but it depends on what kind of change. In today’s world it’s so important to be selective about certain things, while at the same time giving yourself permission and being flexible. It is a very fine line but it makes ALL the difference.

 

I would like to sum up with my thoughts and just say that whatever you do, choose wisely and sometimes just completely let go and follow your heart. Be your fun and crazy self, dance to your own rhythms and beats and awaken the inner child and innocence in you.

Love yourself and live life Queen size!!!

 

Signing out

 

The Girl in Vogue…

 

***If you have any doubts, questions, problems or insights you can feel free to share them with thegirlinvogue15999@gmail.com

 

 

The Girl in Vogue…

May 16,2015 11:32 p.m

INTRODUCTION

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In Jim Corbett National Park

Hi everyone! I am so tempted to reveal my identity to you right now , it’s hard but here I have an extremely different goal towards life .Yes, presently I’m going through a major identity crises but here’s the thing.. I don’t want anybody to judge me in terms of the person I am, my physical appearance or my mental age which is in fact way more than its supposed to be for a girl turning 17 this June. I have this bad habit that when I start to explain a particular concept and then BINGO! You just realize that you are talking about everything except the central topic …so bear with me if I get entangled with my own thoughts .So where was I? Oh yeah identity, so basically the main reason I don’t want to reveal my identity is because I am just an instrument conveying messages, thoughts, feelings, experiences, insights and helping people find their way home if you know what I mean .I’m assuming you do. Being a teenager and having those daily frustrations and insecurities about life, relationships, school, exams future plans, family, social influences, decision-making, conflicts and doubts is pretty normal .I myself have several issues to deal with at this point so I just want to share what I feel and experience on a regular basis with all those teenagers who are having a tough time dealing with similar issues, and in a state where they cannot express it with their immediate family members. Whosoever is reading my blog today, no matter whichever corner of the world you belong to, just remember we’re in this mess together and it’s OKAY to express what you truly feel about yourself because at the end of the day who are we to judge or to be judged? Every negative emotion that comes our way like anger, hatred, jealousy, insecurity etc should be replaced with a positive one because it is these positive emotions that define us. We all are beautiful and unique beings who can never be compared with one another..doing so would be equivalent to a crime. Each and every person in this world has his or her own charm and we should celebrate this diversity because there is no one like you in this universe! Stay connected with your innermost feelings and you’ll never regret any moment of your life. Change your life because you CAN and it’s never too late.. so just do it!

LIVE LIKE YOU’RE DYING TOMORROW!

Loads of love to all my dear readers. Just keep loving!

 

Signing out

The girl in vogue…

***If you have any doubts, questions, problems or insights you can feel free to share them with thegirlinvogue15999@gmail.com

 

 

 

A Collection of Stories About Not Choosing Motherhood

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Here’s the thing: Moms, on an individual basis, may be taken for granted throughout much of the year, but motherhood itself is a status symbol. It’s a time-honored, accepted, even revered, path. Having children is, supposedly, one of the most fulfilling, important, life-affirming things a person could ever do.

So I wanted to write about women (rather, people—not everyone with a uterus identifies as a woman) choosing, actively, not to be mothers. I wanted to find joy in a countercultural narrative. And, yes, I wanted to write about this on Mother’s Day. Because it’s a day some well-meaning family member or total stranger might say, “So, when are you going to have kids?” It’s none of their business, but also, not everyone wants to have kids, and that’s totally okay. These folks have given their decisions a lot of thought—choosing not to parent at all is as big a decision as…

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